I am so depressed and I don’t know what to do. I have wonderful friends and family, a great job, and go to a wonderful school but I’m so numb and sad all the time. And The Stone Center sucks. FML.
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SHE’S FINALLY BACK! MLIA! Everything changed. FML.
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People hating on others FMLs. This is a place to complain!! FYL!
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Wendy
I hate this FML.
/s
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I. Ronnie
This is a dumb FML.
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Anonymous
It’s tempting to down vote this just to be a smart ass, but I won’t. =p
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FYL
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anon
Then why is there a “thumbs down” button?
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yes!
agreed.
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OP
Not the thumbs down button, but people saying that their fml isn’t an fml.
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Despite my currently low GPA, my dad is already looking a couple of years ahead and talking about the possibility of my doing a thesis as if it’s guaranteed. I don’t even know if it will happen. FMScienceMajorUncertainty.
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Anonymous
How low is low? You can petition a department to do a thesis if you’re above a 3.0. Additionally- are you a first year? If you are, you can make the point that your first semester started out rough and that you’re turning it around. Additionally, you can get involved with a research lab on campus now, and maybe make some departmental allies.
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Anonymous
FParents and their weird need to make your decisions for you. I know they just want me to be successful and have a good life, but dude, pressuring me to do everything EXACTLY HOW YOU WANT ME TO DO IT isn’t going to guarantee that. It’s just going to make me hella stressed out.
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Anonymous
who gave him the idea? don’t involve him so much!
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Anonymous
What makes you think *she* gave him the idea?? Some parents involve themselves whether you want them to or not–mine had a nice specific plan for what I’d do in terms of academics in college long before I had even begun to think about it, thank you very much.
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The semester just started and I’m already SWAMPED with readings/work and don’t have time for anything…FML
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To whoever is printing out about a billion copies of “Proof” in Clapp right now: FYL.
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Anon
I really hate that. I was in the library the other day and someone printed out one of those giant, minute-per-page pdfs…on BOTH printers. I realize you need your readings, but please don’t print the exact same document twice if you aren’t going to bother to pick up the second copy.
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made the poor decision to get involved with someone in my dorm while abroad. after we broke things off, he was an jerk and when i tried to talk to him about it kept touching me while i pushed him away. i feel dirty and stupid and cowardly.
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Anon
HE’S dirty and stupid and cowardly!
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Anonymous
Your Wellesley siblings support you and your decisions! He is the coward, not taking no as meaning no.
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A
It was not your fault. It was not your fault. It was not your fault.
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WhataTool
*hugs if you want them*
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I don’t get guys AT ALL. Can genders really think so differently? FML. If only I could wish myself lesbian
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Anonymous
Judging by the experiences of the variously-orientated folks I know, I’m pretty sure it’s just /humans/ who are confusing.
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2014
I think this like 3x a day, but then I remember the whole world isn’t like Wellesley and it would actually probably suck to be gay outside of our bubble
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Anon
Yes. Yes it does suck to be gay in the outside world. It sucks when people can fire you from your job for your sexual orientation. It sucks when you can’t hold your partner’s hand in public. It sucks when you are told something is wrong with you just because you like people of the same sex. Think about your privilege.
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Um
Wasn’t that… exactly what she was doing?
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Anonymous
Sexual orientation isn’t a privilege. She can’t chose to be straight like you can’t choose to be gay, and like others can’t choose to be queer or trans. Societal views gives us heterosexuals this “privilege.” It’s not a personal choice. Choose your words more wisely next time.
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Anonymous
Anonymous–that’s not what privilege means here. It’s like male privilege (where men tend to get nice things like higher salaries and no one blaming their anger on hormones, not because of anything they chose but simply because they have a penis) or white privilege (where white people generally get to go into stores without being watched like a hawk for potential shoplifting, and have foundation widely available in their skin tone, not because they’re choosing a certain way but because they happen to be white). Heterosexual people do have privilege, because pretty much no one tells us we shouldn’t be allowed to get married, or that us raising kids will somehow be life-ruining for the child, that we’re sinners and going to hell for being in love, etc. It’s not about choices. It’s about being lucky–happening to fall into a favored position in your society.
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Anonymous
guys are just people. people are hard to “get” sometimes.
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people be hatin
Why so many down votes?? Let the girl speak her mind! This site is for ranting after all…
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gay privilege
is not real.
please don’t pretend it is.
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Anonymous
I don’t think she was trying to say it’s actually easier to be a lesbian. I think she was just saying she’s had frustrating experiences with guys lately and wishes she didn’t care about them.
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ohshutit
she’s not implying it is she’s just frustrated
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Anon
Seriously. To all the straight girls out there, it’s not easier as a lesbian. Trying to claim that being gay is more difficult than being straight is insulting.
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biiiii
Women are no walk in the park either, my friend.
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sad lesbian
I’m gay and I only attract guys. I can’t get a girl at all.
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Pub Pimping
Awwww! Sad lesbian, don’t be sad.
COME TO THE PUB!
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Anonymous2
Agree with 2014!
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I’m not smart enough to become like the people who inspire me. Inadequacy is so painful. FML
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AgentI
All the people you aspire to, remember, are human beings. They are not inaccessible to you! I know how you feel, believe me, it’s how I feel right now. But we have to remember this!
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accidental
down vote *sigh*
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Only the second day of the semester and I’m already exhausted?!!??!! Body?! What’s wrong with you?! (this is going to be a long semester) FML
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Second day of classes and I already feel a cold coming on. Just dandy. FML.
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Me too
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Dear whoever decided to help yourself to 3/4ths of my laundry detergent over wintersession, FYL
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Went to Pub Night and had so much fun! MLIG! But I got stepped on by someone who wasn’t light on their feet and was wearing stilettos! Now there is a bruise on my foot. FML
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wth
who wears stilettos to the pub… lol…
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Anonymous
This one girl wears stilettos all the time…
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Manager
Me bitch
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hell yeaa
fly azz girls.
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A pubbie
I always seem to step on/trip over someone while working…quit spilling your drinks!!
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I dropped a class at the end of last semester without telling any of my friends. I’m taking it again this semester, but I’m afraid to mention it because I think they’ll judge me. I know it’s not rational, but it’s still hard. FML.
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2013
I have dropped more than one class, so I definitely understand. You don’t have to tell them. If they judge you, they aren’t real friends anyway. Just know that it’s ok, you’ll do better this time. Also, don’t hesitate to do to the PLTC if you need it.
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BeenThereFeltThat
It’s almost guaranteed that everyone will drop at least one class before graduating. The reality is that most of us aren’t always doing as well as we say we are. If you don’t make a big deal about it they shouldn’t either. If they still think less of you, they aren’t really your friend. From personal experience I can tell you that hiding the truth can be very stressful. Pretending that you are taking another class instead of the one you dropped can be very tricky and it will only be more challenging to conceal as the semester continues.
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alwayshungry
OMG ARE YOU ME?!
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Also 2013
You sound exactly like me except that I will not be taking that class again. I didn’t tell any of my friends and I plan to keep it that way. A girl needs to have her secrets sometimes. (:
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Anonymous
I get that same thing, where I think it would be so much easier to just never tell people things that make me feel awkward or uncomfortable, and somehow then they’ll go away and never bother me again. Trying to hide things has yet to actually work, though, for me at least. Someone will ask which class it is you’re going to now again, or a classmate will stop by in the dining hall and mention your class, or you’ll complain about your homework and someone will ask what you’re working on, or something–maybe you’re a better liar than me, but I can’t deal with hiding things from people I’m close to. They always find out anyways and are like, why didn’t you just say so, it’s no big deal.
Basically no need to make a big deal out of it either way, just list it with the other classes when someone asks what you’re taking this semester or something.
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2.5 hour seminar. FML
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Uh...
YLIA
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You (or someone else) pays for class hours
Don’t understand why that’s an FML…
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OP
just because I’m paying for it doesn’t make it any less boring.
i’m allowed to complain on a place called “wellesleyfml”.-
Anonymous
and they’re allowed to complain about you complaining, because that’s what Wellesley students do. Sigh.
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Anonymous 11:17 pm on January 30, 2012 Permalink |
Have you tried other people at the Stone Center? If not, then this may be a case for meeting with a professional off campus.
Anonymous 1:57 am on January 31, 2012 Permalink |
Try exercising regularly! I know how you feel…I felt the same way a couple of semesters ago, but exercising on a regular basis dramatically changed my mood for the better.
Anonymous 6:41 am on January 31, 2012 Permalink |
I was in a similar situation last semester. I wasted an entire semester being sad, sick, and sleepy because neither I nor the Stone Center trainee I talked with realized what an off-campus GP and an off-campus psychiatrist saw pretty instantly: I was depressed and very anxious. If you can afford it, go to an off-campus psychiatrist ASAP. Your insurance provider should have a list of those within your network in Wellesley (if you can bike, borrow a car, or pay someone to drive you) or Cambridge/Boston (if you can’t). If you can’t afford off-campus help/are on school insurance, please advocate for yourself and tell the Stone Center exactly what you think is wrong. Don’t be afraid to request a psychologist or a psychiatrist rather than a trainee; tell them talk therapy isn’t helping. Tell your parents (which is obviously necessary if you go off-campus), but come to them with a plan. Taking ownership and doing something may help you feel a little bit better in itself. Do some research about possible treatments and side effects before your appointment so you can ask smart questions. I know it can be a pain to go off-campus, but it will be more than worth it in the end.
Anon 9:12 am on January 31, 2012 Permalink |
Talk to one of the MHEs or a member of Active Minds! They even have a google group
We support you! 5:21 pm on January 31, 2012 Permalink |
If you can afford to get counseling outside of the stone center, I would highly highly recommend it. Depending on how you feel about counseling, it may seem like it won’t help, but one bad counseling experience is not all there is! (I know this from experience) There are many places to get counseling in Boston and I’m pretty sure that the Stone Center will be able to recommend some places.
Whatever you do, remember that your sibs are here with love and support!
2013 7:50 pm on January 31, 2012 Permalink |
I’m really sorry to hear that! Have you considered seeing someone off campus or switch to another SC counselor? My counselor has been wonderful and I have had a very positive experience there–sometimes the person could make a huge difference. Let me know if you need some recommendations! Otherwise, I really hope you would feel better soon. Hugs.
the Stone Center turned 8:05 pm on January 31, 2012 Permalink |
my life back around. I’m sorry it’s not working for you–did you consider talking to someone else? Don’t hate on the Stone Center; it serves lots of people in the Wellesley community.
Anonymous 8:43 am on February 1, 2012 Permalink |
As a person who really didn’t realize how depressed I was until years later (cough*denial*cough), and hence never really got help for it….please, please do not give up. Depression has no connection to how good your friends or classes are, and it’s not something you should deal with on your own. Try talking to a different person at the Stone Center, or going off-campus, or basically anything within your power to try. I really hope you find a way to feel better soon…I remember that blank, empty, numb exhaustion, and it’s awful.